unhappy marriage

Couples whose marriage is in trouble and fight a lot are often counseled to get a divorce since it is better for children to be raised in a peaceful home rather than one filled with strife. I disagree. Children are better raised in a home with a mother and a father rather than just a mother or a father. This is the way God designed a family.

When children hear their parents arguing all the time it makes them very insecure. They go to bed crying often. They are usually not crying because their parents are arguing but for fear that their parents might break up. They want their parents to stay together. They want a mother and a father.

Sadly, very few children today have seen the pattern of living through differences. Learning to love through thick and thin is like riding a bicycle. It is much easier if learned and modeled as a child.

My parents argued a LOT. They showed very little love between the two of them. I know what it is like to be raised in a home with a lot of conflict. However, I am so happy my parents stuck it out. My sisters and I have strong marriages with children walking in Truth. My parents have left a godly heritage with us, our children, and grandchildren.

The school for human relationships is the home and family. Women and men are in danger of pulling the beautiful continuity of a family – generations of togetherness, reunions made up of a flow of generations, the most preciously fulfilling things of human life – down around their ears. “It is not good that man should be alone “{Genesis 2:18} coupled with “till death do us part” speak of lasting togetherness, even though imperfect since the Fall. {Edith Schaeffer}

So for the children and the health of society, I urge you to stay married. Stop arguing and pursue peace. Start serving your husband as if you were serving the Lord. Children need to be shown how relationships, especially marriage, work even when it is not easy.

A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives.

I Corinthians 7:39

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